Whatever happens, make sure you look after yourself!

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If you are reading this today, we have now come to the end of Mental Health Awareness week in the UK (14th – 20th May 2018). The focus of this years campaign is centred around Stress. According to research, two-thirds of us experience a mental health problem during the course of our lives and stress has a major part to play.

Secretly that doesn’t even surprise me because anyone can experience a mental health problem and anything can trigger off stress. Financial issues, breakups, family problems, and the list goes on, there is no straightforward formula to how this thing actually works. What I do what to highlight within this blog post is that #MentalHealthAwarness goes beyond just one week within the year. 7 days of out 365 isn’t that much, so we have to be intentional about it. It must be an ongoing thing, something that we strategically sow into our lives on a daily basis.

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Life is a rollercoaster with many ups and downs. Things happen to us. Things happen through us and most of the time, we just get on with it. Most of us never get a chance to recover or recoup, because boom before you know it, something else occurs. Some of us face battles every day and we never really get a chance to heal because life is moving so fast and we have to keep it moving. Let’s be honest, no one wants to be left behind, so we keep running the race wounded, hoping to finish in first place.

I wish life was fair but sadly it is not. In the midst of all the things we face, we have to look after ourselves mentally. No matter what happens we have to keep our minds strong. This week alone, I have seen so many posts on social media saying ‘check on your friends’, yeah that is great but what about you? What about your mental health and what you are going through? What about how you are feeling or how well you are coping with things?

It is lovely to be there for others, but don’t ever forget to be there for yourself. Don’t ever neglect your thoughts or feelings, ever. I believe in giving to others from our overflow, so we are not out here in these streets running on empty.  I will always stand by this, because if you don’t look after yourself, who else will?

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The scariest thing is, many people are not really taught how to look after themselves mentally. Some mirror what they see at home, they either follow or rebel. I don’t know what category you may fall under or if those categories even apply to you.

I guess what I am trying to emphasise is that YOUR mental health is your OWN priority. We can’t rely on others, we have to take hold of it and protect it by any means necessary. When we are stressed or depressed we are unable to function and this stops us from living our best lives. Trust me, I know because I have been depressed and I have been stressed.

So, I decided to put together 10 self-care tips that you can try to incorporate into your daily life to help you manage stress or stressful situations.

 

SELF-CARE – SUNDAY SESSIONS

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  1. Take a moment to sit in silence and breathe. Before you react to any stressor, take a few moments to compose yourself, you won’t regret it.
  2. Turn off all social media
  3. Write a list of positive affirmations, you can create this yourself or you can find some amazing ones online.
  4. Stop Over-thinking and replaying dead situations in your head
  5. Allow yourself to feel without judgement
  6. Whatever you cant change, let it go
  7. Create Joyful morning and evening routines
  8. Forgive yourself & forgive others
  9. Don’t EVER compare who you are or where you are in life with other people, save yourself the hassle
  10. Most importantly, Love yourself and protect your peace by any means necessary.

 

Remember: Life will throw all kinds of obstacles your way, but you have to understand that whatever you go through is temporary and you are only just passing through. Our mental health is just as important as our bills being paid. We must protect it and stay on top of it no matter what. ANYTHING that tries to threaten or interrupt our mental health, we have to SHUT IT DOWN or LET IT GO.

Stay Blessed guys

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Don’t forget you can catch me on all the socials @JennasWorldView

 

Lots of love

Jenna

xoxo

 

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#TravelDiary: 2015 On a high in Dubai

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Call me weird, but I seem to believe that odd years have been the most fruitful for me oppose to even years. Since I entered the world in 1991, your girl has thrived in every odd year since lol. Aunty Lorna (my mum) says that it is down to the seasons of life but I just believe it is down to the year. To have a better understanding of my trip to Dubai, I need to give you insight into where I was in my life during that time.

It was the year 2015 and my mindset was so focused on experiencing a turnaround. After a turbulent end to 2014, I was keen to see things do a swift 360 and they did. I landed my first graduate job as a Research Assistant at Kings College London University. Following a sudden illness, I made some lifestyle changes that resulted in me overcoming some major health challenges. Blessings were flowing and everyone was receiving something. I played in the Notting Hill carnival that year and I was so high on life. Things were finally looking up after being upside down for so long.  So a trip to Dubai at the end of the summer (September 2015) was literally the cherry on top of all the goodness that I was experiencing.

I had been fascinated with Dubai for many years and I always wanted to go. I am not sure why, but Dubai was the place on everybody’s lips. If you had been to Dubai, you were saying a lot. When I uploaded my first batch of Dubai pics, I was sure to drop my location and let everybody know that your girl was in town. However, going to Dubai for me was much more than just showing off on the socials with bigger than life captions.

A year before my trip to Dubai, I was in a place of turmoil. I was drowning in Postgraduate depression, something that is so common but sadly not spoken about enough. In addition to this I recovering from an unexpected illness and questioning whether God was real or fake. Now those are just some of the things that I was going through that I am now willing to open up and talk about. To the outsiders looking in, me flying to Dubai and posting all over the gram, I just looked like an over the top show off.  However, that was far from the case. If you have ever been through a storm in life and you make it out on the other side, alive, you just shine differently.

My trip to Dubai will always remind me of how God miraculously made a way for me. I don’t know how but he did it. My Dubai trip felt like a gift that I received after passing all of those obstacles and challenges. Have you ever had so many doors close in your face, that when the right door finally opens it makes sense why the others didn’t? Yeah, that’s just how I feel about that whole experience.

Dubai was so long ago, so with what I can remember I broke my trip down in different categories, enjoy.

The Hotel

I stayed in the 5-star hotel chain the Sofitelon Jumeirah beach on a half board basis. One thing I didn’t know prior to checking in was the 20 dirham a day tourist tax. I was young in the travel game back then, so things like that didn’t even cross my mind to check before travelling. If you plan to visit Dubai, spend some time doing some travel planning and research, visitdubai.com is a great place to start, so do check it out.

The Sofitel did not disappoint, as you know I am such a sucker for a luxurious, nice, clean hotel with all of the trimmings and it served me just that. The location of my hotel was so ideal and I couldn’t have been happier. It had absolutely everything within walking distance. I would highly recommend staying by Jumeirah Beach as it closely connected to most things.

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The food

I ate a lot of junk food in Dubai, it wasn’t intentional but fast food was very convenient. On my first night, I had KFC and it was nothing to write home about because we all know that Jamaica has the best KFC in the world. People have told me that Trinidad KFC could give Jamaica a run for its money, but I am yet to try it, so Jamaica still stands at number one, lol.

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Panda Express was my go-to for lunch because the food was tasty and cheap lol. Chinese food is always a good idea and I rinsed this place out on a daily basis. However, for me, The Cheesecake Factory was hands down the best food that I had in Dubai on my trip. From the main meals right down to the desserts, The Cheesecake Factory was truly about that life. Please, please please it is not possible to visit Dubai without giving this place a try.

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The Mall

The Dubai mall felt like an adventure playground, with lots to see and even much more to do. Unfortunately, I didn’t do any major shopping. I was more focused on booking activities and making sure that I had money to eat and pay my share for taxi trips. I loved the mall, but I was super conscious about what I wore and how I conducted myself. I was not interested in getting arrested abroad for my family to be making sad appeals on Good morning Britain. I was on my best behaviour because I really didn’t want any problems. I am not sure how much things have changed now, but whenever I go away I make it my duty to adhere to the customs of that particular culture.

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The Transport

Dubai is not an easy place to travel around like London. It is filled with too many highways and one way systems that make short journeys 10 x longer. The taxi system was a bump back then. I disliked using the taxis because most drivers were rude and obnoxious. Especially to us Black women. It was just a complete nightmare. Hopefully, they now have Uber, but I wouldn’t even trust that either. The trains ran a much better service. It was efficient, clean and very easy to use. Although men, women and children were required to go into separate carriages or be at risk of getting a fine. I always recommend for travellers to use the local transport systems, as it allows you to get a real feel of the country that you are visiting.

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The Nightlife 

The Nightlife in Dubai was pretty decent. Most of the clubs were situated in fancy hotels. Everything was plush, boujee and proper, just how I like it. Raving in Dubai never gave me that trashy feeling, everything felt expensive, lol. The clubs were strict, Ladies don’t think you can take your heels off and leave them in one corner, security will put you in check.

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I found that there were more men than women in the clubs, but I kind of expected that. Men of all ages who made sure their money did all the talking, without any introductions. I received a few offers in Dubai, all of which I nicely declined. I didn’t fancy being pumped out for a few labels as it has never really been my thing, lol. The only downside to the Dubai nightlife is that ravers were allowed to smoke in the clubs. It was the worst thing ever, we had to wash our bundles daily just to get rid of the stench. YUCK.

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My best clubbing experience in Dubai was at Cirque Le Soir. A boujee, circus theme nightclub, filled with burlesque dancers, fire eaters, an indoor funfair and multiple DJs. I had never experienced anything like it prior, but I would definitely recommend it if you want an unusual raving experience. The Dubai nightlife was pure fun, I even unexpectedly bumped into my sis @Mybreakingviews. We both went to secondary school together and it is amazing to now see where God is taking us on this Travel & Lifestyle blogging journey. Check out my sis, she has some great content out and even much more to come.

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How did I forget to mention that I had a dance-clash with one of the local dancer girls at one Dancehall/Reggae party? I couldn’t believe she actually challenged me, lol the poor thing didn’t stand a chance. I wiped the floor with her but I felt so bad after so we ended up hugging it out. If you have ever seen the film Dancehall queen you will know exactly what I am talking about. If not, click here lol

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The Activities

I did the Dubai Bus tour and I hated it. I felt like we wasted a day driving around getting fried in the sun. It is a great way to learn about the history of Dubai and do some sightseeing, but it just wasn’t for me.

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One activity I did enjoy was the Desert safari  it was so sick and I am pissed that I lost most of my Dubai footage. The Desert safari package was definitely worth it, I did so many activities in one go. I got a chance to ride a camel again, see belly dancers, try on a burka and hijab and have dinner in the middle of the Desert. This activity comes highly recommended as it was great value for money, which I would like to experience do again.

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I am not sure if I had mentioned this before, but I do not know how to swim. The time that I have been worried about being 26 & never been on a Bae-cation… I need to learn how to swim, lol. I will eventually, but whilst I was in Dubai your girl was clueless about swimming. It didn’t stop me from going on the Jet skis though. Sometimes you have to feel the fear and do it anyway and I did just that.

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On my last night in town, I went to visit The Burj Khalifa and it was nothing short of amazing. How can you visit Dubai and not go to see one of the world’s largest skyscrapers? Once I got to the top, I watched a lovely firework display and it truly was a sight to remember. What a good way to end such an amazing trip. I felt so proud that I was able to take myself to Dubai and be able to see such a major landmark. Below is my favourite picture from this trip, I was sitting inside of the Burj Khalifa admiring the view. I uploaded this on Instagram with a caption saying “Hello Burj Khalifa, I am just a little black girl coming from Myatt’s field estate, now as a Young Woman, I am exploring different parts of the world”.

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One thing for sure, I have stayed true to that statement and I won’t stop travelling. I pray that God will spare my life to allow me to go out into the world and see much more of it.

DUBAI is an amazing place and if you haven’t already book a trip and get out there ASAP.  I can’t wait to go back to explore and see all of the new developments since my last visit. Dubai will always be a yes for me and it is one of those places that I will always be up for going back to again and again.

My Next Travel blog post will be about my 2016 trip to Miami and you really don’t want to miss that.

Anyways my Loves, you can find me on all the socials @Jennasworldview

Please keep reading, liking and sharing.

Stay Blessed

Lots of love

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Jenna

xoxo

26 & never been on a Bae-cation…

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For those of you that don’t know, a Bae-cation is a vacation that you take with BAE. The Bae in question must be your significant other. Borrowing a BAE from someone else would be quite problematic. Personally, I would avoid that and I urge you to do the same, but hey that is a new blog – post for another day lol

I thought long and hard about this and yes I’d love for the chance to escape to an Exotic Island or be whisked away on a City break with Bae. I never travelled with my ex so this is a new territory that I am keen to explore. As I am now part of the Travel blogging community, I see so many travel pics of couples daily and it really got me thinking about me and my own experiences.

So I decided to reach out to my Instagram family to find out who has been on a Baecation and where did they goIt is safe to say, that I am not the only person left on the earth who has not been on one, whew. There are both Men and Women out there, young and old who are yet to jet out with their partner. I guess this means that I am not an alien and I can stop stressing myself out right?. Mmmm I’m not yet convinced, this lack of Baecation stuff is going on my prayer list, so watch this space, lol.

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 In my head, a Bae-cation goes something like this . . .

Together both of us will be killing it our holiday outfits, from the colours right down to the footwear. We just naturally complement each other as we travel through a new country, exploring and making new memories. Our beach days will consist of long walks, hand in hand in the sand, whilst the waves of the sea flow as our background music. We will stay up late into the evenings, talking about whatever comes to mind right through to the early hours of the morning. Each day away will give us both the chance to recharge, reconnect and plan ahead.

These scenes from a romantic film that I am describing are probably far from the true reality of Bae-cations. I know it sounds so scripted and glamorous, but hey a girl can dream lol. I am an outsider here so I wouldn’t know where to start.  If I am way off hit your girl up and drop some knowledge on me in the comments, lol.

In my mind, a Baecation seems necessary for all couples. Time away from our natural habitats does everyone good, I expect that a Baecation would probably do the same plus more. Chances are it gives some couples the opportunity to pour into each other with minimal distractions or outside influences. From what I have seen and heard, a Baecation is like a Kinder surprise, you just never know what you might get. It is possible to go on a Baecation and not come back the same way.

How many couples have you heard of that went away and come back engaged, eloped, pregnant or even separated?  You just never know what a Baecation could bring, but I am here for it, and can’t wait for my turn. Travelling is a big part of me. Travelling has shaped my character as a woman.Travelling has broadened my horizons. Travelling holds a big place in my heart and life. I can’t even begin to imagine, what it would feel like to share this with Bae. I know this sounds mushy, but hey I said, what I said lol.

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Even before I announced this blog post, I have had lots of questions floating around in my head about Baecations.

When is the right time in a relationship to go on holiday?

Is there a Bae-cation vetting process?

Would I take wigs on a Bae-cation or nah?

Where would we go ?

What started out as a fun light-hearted blog – post quickly took a negative turn, that left me feeling out of place.

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My mind was doing overtime putting this blog post together. To the point where I almost abandoned it. I felt like I was mentally self –harming trying to understand something that I was yet to experience. As I pondered on the fact that I am 26 and I have never been on a Bae-cation, it was getting me very pressed. The thought of it got me extremely agitated, my mood kept dipping and my nostrils flares were on 100. I had to seriously question myself and ask “Jenna what is all the fuss about with this Baecation stuff”? Then it hit me like a ton of bricks and I ended up going down that road of self-reflection.

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I will be 27 in December and my life is really just getting started. There are a lot of things ahead of me, I have lots to see and even more to explore and experience. Even though, I know this to be true, I sometimes have moments of ‘when is it going to happen?”  and I am sure that I am not alone. From about 15 years old, I have planned out my entire life. According to my plans, I should be a qualified Clinical Psychologist, married, pregnant with the twins, renovating my 5th property, and coordinating business deals back and forth from New York.  I am so far away from this plan, it actually chokes me to know that I haven’t achieved anything I just shared on that list.

 I am not where I THOUGHT I would be by this age. Acknowledging that I am now 26 and haven’t been on a Baecation, reminds me that the plans that I made for my life at 15 have not come to fruition. I do feel some type of way, but I have just been getting on with my life and buried these feelings. We all have things that we bury deep down inside of us. In hopes that we never have to deal with them ever again or that if we ignore it the feelings will go away. The truth is, as I get on with life, my faith and my fears are at WAR but only one of them can win. My faith tells me there is still enough time for all of those beautiful things to take place in my life. Whilst my fears tell me, that my career, travel plans, love life and future will never happen. It is a constant battle, but I am determined that my fears will not win.

On this life journey so far I have broken down and hit many roadblocks as well as diversions. I set out on one route, took a few wrong turns, couple detours and there. I have been lost, was given many directions, ended up ditches, rerouted and then found myself back on the roads, with the breeze blowing through my hair. I made plans for my life and believed I would go down a particular route in order to achieve them but that has been far from the case and that’s fine.

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Sometimes in life, the route in which we take to achieving our plans will be the very thing that destroys us. We have our hearts and minds set on things that have nothing to do with where Gods wants to take us. I am not saying that we must not set goals or plan.  I am saying that if you plan something and it doesn’t work out how you thought it would, don’t be disheartened. Just know that God has SOMETHING better in store for you. When you get caught up in what did not work or what you don’t have, you lose sight of where you are. Even if something has not happened in your life just yet, doesn’t mean that it will never happen.

I am guilty of living my life through an unrealistic checklist created by me, influenced heavily by family expectations, peer pressure, society standards & Culture. I can confidently say that I know I am not the only one.There is no real manual on how to do this life thing because it is very much all trial and error. In a weird way I felt very disappointed that I had not achieved some of those things on my list, because If I did, Bae-cations would have happened already. Those plans that I wrote for my life at 15 have secretly been holding me hostage. My unrealistic timelines have made me feel some type of way about things that I cant control in life.

The truth is this, it doesn’t matter how much we stress or wonder when things will happen in our lives. At the right time, in the right season, with the right people, everything that is yours shall be given unto you. Stressing is a waste time because it won’t get you to your goals any quicker. Do not to focus on what has not shown up just yet in your life, have faith that GODS plans will lead you to everything that you need.

So yes, I am 26 and I have NOT yet been on a Bae-cation, but it will happen, just like all the other things that are destined for my life. What I have and what I do not have, no longer has power over me and that now gives me hella strength.

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Stay Blessed peeps

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Jenna’s Words of Wisdom

Remember it is always good, to be honest with yourself about your inner thoughts and feelings. Self-reflection is key!

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Lots of Love

Jenna

xoxo

#TravelDiary: Like 2pac in 93, I get around – Pt1…

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When I launched JWV last month (March 2018), I kicked it off with a blog post about my recent trip to Rome (You can read about it here). I basically took my readers to Rome through a descriptive recap of how it all went down and it was a VIBE, if I do say so myself.

But, as I have said before I haven’t just been to Rome. Your girl has made a couple of trips here and there. Although it might not be as much as the average travel blogger, I have made some movements. I could be wrong but I don’t think there is a minimum amount of countries you are required to visit yearly to qualify as a travel blogger. If you love to travel, do it frequently and have the capacity to put out content, then BOOM you are good to go.

The most countries that I have visited in one year is three (2013 & 2017). Some people have the capacity to travel much more than that and that too is amazing. Whether you travel once a year or more, be grateful. As there are loads of people who would love to do it but just don’t have the time or resources.

So here is part one of my travel diary. I don’t have any pictures of my travel trips as a baby though. Issa long story, but have a read below, enjoy and stay tuned for part two coming soon.

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2002 – Miami

Daddy took his baby girl to Miami…

When my Dad told me he was taking me to Miami, Florida back in 2002. I was gassed. Super excited. Right up until I arrived in Miami, I kept singing “All night, on the beach till the break of dawn. Welcome to Miami, Bienvenidos a Miami”.  Hella cheesy but I was only 10 years old, so give me a break lol.

It was not all fun and games though because the real reason for this trip was my Grans funeral. If you ever had a death in the family you will know that it is usually filled with tears, sadness and “ole leap ah drama”. My Pups did a good job to keep me out of that though. I spent most of my time out shopping, recreating the Destiny’s Child “I’m a survivor” beach scenes at the beach, eating and of course a trip to Disneyland. I remember it like it was yesterday. I felt like one of those celebrity kids,anything I wanted or needed, my Daddy made it happen.

This was my first trip to the USA and if you read my (Is Sisterhood dying out here in these streets?) blog post last month, I shared how much I followed Black American Culture growing up. So you can just imagine how much of a field day I had out there. I was fascinated with everything because everything was literally 10 x larger than the stuff in the UK, especially the junk food.

I loved my time spent in Miami because it allowed me to reconnect with my Dads family on another level. I learned a bit more about my Fathers foundation and the type of family that I was born into.  I listened to him and his siblings share their childhood stories and looked through 100s of old photos. It really helped me piece together elements of my identity and of course understand a bit more about my Jamaican heritage.

2007 – Italy

Learning a thing or two in Florence…

My first school trip abroad and it didnt disappoint, I had so much fun. We didn’t fly though, we made our way to Dover got on the ferry and drove the entire way into Florence. It was everything I imagined a school trip to be plus more. I can remember sitting on the Coach with my Song Ericsson W810 listening to “Seany B ft Gemma Fox – Us against the world” (CHANNEL U classic) and thinking about my first boyfriend, who sadly was in jail at the time (sigh lol).  Anyway, the trip was eventful, educational and fun. I climbed the leaning tower of Piasa all the top to the top. Tossed coins in Trevi fountain, I made a promise to return & I did (click here to read about it). I also visited ‘La Specola Anatomical Collection, the largest and most famous wax anatomical collection anywhere in the world. After this trip, I vowed to myself that when I got a little bit older I would travel around the world as much as I could. It is safe to say that self- fulfilling prophecy is currently manifesting.

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2010 – New York

Big dreams in the concrete jungle…

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If you don’t know by now, I love Black America. I always have and I probably always will. When the opportunity presented itself for me to go to NEW YORKKKKK, I was all over that like Bees on honey. I had started my 2nd Job in ALLSAINTS head office the December of 2009 (shout out to my God sister for the hook up) and when I tell you I put in work for every bit of GBP that I earned to make that trip to New York possible.

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I don’t think no one truly understands just how much my heart bleeds for America, especially New York. I used to dream about living and working out there for yearssssss. It was a dream come true when I finally stepped on NYC soil. As soon as I checked into my hotel, I dropped my bags off and ran out onto Times Square. Those brights lights penetrated right through me and I couldn’t hold back my excitement. To dream about this place as a child and to finally be there many years later, confirmed to me that anything in life is possible. If you really want it!

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New York, has a piece of my heart. In some weird way, I feel like God has something patterned out there for me. I am not sure what that may be, but if the opportunity presents itself I will surely be ready.  I spent most of this trip shopping as sightseeing was kept to a minimal. I even declined to visit Ground Zero because I felt overwhelmed being quite close to the grounds. The shopping in NYC was top notch, I felt like a kid in a candy store and came home with two suitcases packed to capacity. I also got a chance to visit the Maury show, I was a big fan back then, so it was such a vibe to go down there and see everything up close and personal. I even got a chance to visit HARLEM and my oh my, it truly felt like being back home in BRIXTON. The multi-culture of the people and the vibes of the community felt oh so familiar. New York needs to see me again, as I have so much to see and much more to do.

2012 – Dominican Republic

Scared straight in the DR…

This trip to the Dominican Republic came about after a random convo one night on BBM. DR has got to be one of the safest holidays that I have ever been on. Reading those government safety warnings before travelling really made us take extra care. We were so scared on this holiday to the point where we only left the hotel complex, to go to the beach. Looking back now, I feel very dumb. Like a pie slapped in my face kinda dumb, lol. We were under the impression we would get kidnapped by our neighbours in Haiti or even some pirates. Lord forgive us for that high level of ignorance.

We stayed at the Ifa villas Bravo all-inclusive resort, which included spa facilities of course lol. The food wasn’t that great but the beach and spa made up for it. If you ever get a chance to experience a full chocolate body massage, do it. The pictures from this trip are hilarious. My weave was about 26 INCHES (see below) and my travel case was filled with maxi dresses and sandals.

Relaxing, taking pictures for Instagram (it was the new thing back then) and recording videos of ourselves rapping to Rick Ross & Drake was mainly what this trip consisted of. I do regret not exploring as much, but I was a novice in the Travel game back then. Its safe to say that the Dominican Republic needs a do-over, Baecation maybe? lol

2013 – Turkey

Young & not so carefree in Turkey…

I believe my whole trip cost me about £389 for a one week all-inclusive trip to Marmaris. I didn’t really know what to expect but it actually turned out to be better than I could of imagined. I enjoyed a photo shoot on a boat, I got dipped in Marmaris Jesus beach and I went snorkelling for the first time. I even survived Quad biking through the forest and experienced my first EVER Turkish bath.

My mum went into a crazy frenzy when she saw the picture of me blowing out the Shisha smoke, lol. Black Mothers & their theatrics never cease to amaze me, lol. Even when you become a legal adult your parents still don’t know how to let go of you. If my mum knew how many takes it took to get this one picture, she would not have wasted her time cussing me out.

This was my first holiday as a 21-year-old woman. It was during one of the best times in my life. My friendship circle, social life and education were truly buzzing. Life was good, life was really good and this trip was like a cherry on top of all the great things that were happening in my life.

2013 – Jamaica

Likkle miss, Likkle miss ah gwan like she big in Jamaica…

Going to Jamaica as a 21-year-old adult is much different than when you go there as a child with adult supervision. I need you to understand that when it came to leaving Jamaica, I cried like a big baby at the airport. I didn’t want to go home. My spirit was so peaceful and I felt free. I literally had no cares in the world, the only thing that was on my mind was my motives for each day.

Jamaica was everything plus more.  I was on such a high as I had played in the London Nottinghill carnival two weeks before flying out . So you know my head was still on a high from the moment I got on that plane. My Jamaica antics were plain and simple. I went to a dance every night, strolled back to the hotel at 7 am most mornings, I felt shame every single time and did it again the next day, LOL. I stayed at the Sunset Grande which has now been renovated and renamed Moon Palace.

I visited Dolphin Cove, Dunn’s Rivers Falls, Bob Marley’s Mausoleum. I ate KFC, juicy patties, box food and slurped bag juice on a daily basis. I even went to the infamous adult entertainment nightclub SHADES. I was truly horrified,because what I saw in that nightclub traumatized me for life. Google that if you are bad, but do it at your own risk, lool.

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In all honesty though you can never go to Jamaica and hate it, it’s just not possible.

2013 – Morocco 

Weekend antics in Morocco…

This was the first time that I ever took a flight by myself. Things were going well until I had to stop off in Casa Blanca for my connecting flight to Marrakesh. How was I supposed to know that my luggage would be transferred onto the next flight, without me having to go through bag drop again? Please believe I was crying frantically all through that airport. If you read ‘When in Rome, do shows‘ you will know that I am not fluent in any other language apart from English. I didn’t understand a word of Arabic and I am sure the airport staff couldn’t understand my English through snot & tears lol.

To cut a long story short, I managed to get my luggage once on the other side. I spent the weekend in a private 4 bedroom villa, which included individual bathrooms, wifi, an outdoor pool, private chef with a chauffeur.

Nikki Beach, Camel rides and fine dining at the Four Seasons hotel, were just some of the great memories that I made in Morocco. It truly deserves a do-over, but it will probably be somewhere I will go with my Husband for one of our getaways or anniversary trips. I am not married just yet guys, but my Husband will soon find me, so watch this space, lol.

I hope you enjoyed part 1 of my Travel diary, look out for Part 2 coming soon. Also let me know if we have been to any of the same places or if you plan to visit some of the places that I have.

If you are flying out this year and need help with your Travel Wardrobe, check out the first edition of #JWV TravelGlam Lookbook for some style tips & inspiration.

Need help packing your travel case? I got you, check out  #JWV Top 10 Travel essentials to help you get things in order.

As always my boo, thank you for reading.

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Stay blessed Peeps

Lots of Love

Jenna

xoxox

The cost of living a lie. . .

 

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Living a lie: To live in a way that is dishonest because you are pretending to be something that you are not, to yourself or to other people

Everyone at some point in their life has lived a lie or is currently living one right now.

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I Said it.

Sometimes it is not intentional. It can happen so easily that you didn’t even realise you were doing it. Days, months and years can rapidly go by whilst those lies have embedded themselves so perfectly into your life. You have become so accustomed to it, that you can no longer differentiate the real from the fake. After spending a significant amount of time deceiving others, you have become so unrecognizable even to yourself.

When I thought about it deeply, most of us were encouraged to engage in pretend play as children. It was where some of us mastered the ‘Art of pretending’. Putting on a different face and persona depending on who or what we wanted to be. I couldn’t help but wonder if our natural ability to pretend and fake it as children has secretly crept into our adulthood? Is this the reason why some people are out here on social media lying hard through them filters to maintain a false image of who they really are? If it’s not this, could our families or upbringing be to blame?

In some households, children were taught from an early age not to discuss their family business. Forced to cover things up and keep family secrets to ensure a clean image of the family was maintained. Even if things were going wrong. Could this be the missing link or am I reaching? Lol. I may not be clear on what causes people to pretend and live a lie. I just know that the consequences of doing so will cause more harm than good.

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To be honest, it actually baffles me that people can go online and create a magnified persona and lifestyle that is so far away from who they really are. I know this is something that has been happening for years but it has now reached new heights within today’s society. Celebrities, reality TV personas and social Influencers have done changed the game. It is so easy to deceive and be deceived. In the world of social media, lace frontal’s serve scalp realness, flat tummy tea and waist trainers can give you a flat stomach without a proper diet and those are just some of the most bait common examples.

Look what happened to #VisaBae last week, she was out here doing luxury life on the gram. Yet she was facing deportation, having to desperately beg her followers to finance her visa. Who am I to say #IssaScam? It is not my story to tell, but what I will say is #VisaBae is a prime example of the people who portray to live a luxury lifestyle online that does not reflect their actual reality. The funny thing is, #VisaBae is no different to the millions of people across the world who lie about their lives, she just exposed herself.

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Fake is the new normal and its here to stay

These days everyone is striving to look like they have become while missing out on the process of becoming? Hiding behind filtered pictures, accompanied by powerful captions that are so far away from their truth. Many people scream ‘its just social media’ don’t take it seriously when in fact it is a big deal. Social media has shaped the way we view ourselves and others, whether we like it or not. It is so easy to get “lost in the sauce”. Seeing other people travel, start a business, embark on new ventures, get married or start a family can have a person feeling as if their life is not flourishing.

Sadly, today’s culture is very much driven by what can be seen. So there is no surprise why many individuals feel as if they need to appear as though every area of their life is intact. People are out here flexing. Doing shows. Losing their dignity and damaging their peace of mind just to portray themselves as something they are not. The pressure is real out here in these streets and so is the self-scrutiny. Many individuals start to feel like they not good enough or that their lives lack something because they are not doing gymnastics to pose in a pair of red bottoms on the gram.

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As a newbie blogger, I had to check out the blogging community to see what was out there. There are many bloggers who are doing some amazing things that I am not doing and that is ok. My time will come. Instead of being jealous of what I saw others doing online, I was inspired more than ever to get started. Social media is so powerful it can make people jealous, bitter and envious of what other people have or appear to have. It is shameful, but its happening. Aunty Lorna (my mum) has always told me that I must never ever envy other people. Especially for material things, as I do not know what they had to go through to get them. I will always live by this gem and you should too.

As you read this, just know there are major personalities in the media, who appear to be bold, confident and have it all. Behind the scenes, they are lonely, sad, depressed, addicted, or on the brink of suicide. Yet just by what they post, there are people out there who would trade places with them in a heartbeat. People crave for things they have no real idea about and it needs to stop.

The girl who posts three times a day about her “fantastic relationship”, shows off all her luxury gifts from her man is actually in debt. Baby girl is robbing one credit card to pay the other, all because she is maintaining the man. The poor thing pays for everything behind the scenes yet you can’t stand her because it looks like she “has it all”. Other girls are out here getting pissed on by a rich dude for a handbag & flight to the Maldives just to flash about on the socials. Believe it or not, guys are out here doing just as much crazy things as women to maintain a false image. Certain dudes are out engaging in so much illegal activity just to sport designer clothes. All while they sleep on the cold floor of their mum’s council property that is drowning in rent arrears.

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Most people shy away from their truth by using things like drugs, relationships, raving, alcohol etc as a disguise for their problems or pain. When my 7-year relationship ended in 2016. I was hurt and I had every right to be. To deal with the aftermath of my break up I spent money. Not no eeeeediat, I spent lots of money, I booked holidays, concerts, festivals, I purchased things impulsively as a way to pacify my pain and hide how I was truly feeling.

I did some crazy things LOL but I don’t actually regret them. I am happy that it was money that I used as an outlet to soothe my heartbreak. It was a beautiful nightmare that allowed me to learn a great deal about myself, even though the process was bludclart painful. By lying to myself about how I was feeling and living only delayed my healing and new blessings. I did overtime trying to convince MYSELF that I was all good. When I finally gave in, I went down a bitter-sweet road of self-discovery. I had no choice but to turn my pain into power and it has opened more doors for me than living in that lie ever did.

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One thing life has taught me so far is that you can lie to other people, but you cant lie to yourself or the creator. No matter how hard you try, your demons will catch up to you. So it’s better, to be honest, and true to yourself. You may feel like you are so far gone into the lies that you are unable to get out of it. Issa lie boo. I have said this before and I will say it again unless you are dead in the grave, there is still time for a change, real change. It is ok. You can stop pretending. Take those necessary steps because living a lie on social media is one thing, but living a lie in real life is another.

The cost of living in a lie will ultimately destroy you. It’s no secret that other people will get hurt in the process but the real damage is the harm that YOU inflict on yourself. Pretending to be ok when you are not ok is not ok. Saving face to maintain a false image of yourself and your lifestyle is not ok. Spending money you don’t have to keep up with the Jones will only lead you to financial problems. Doing things to please other people when you know deep down it’s not right with your soul is not ok. So I write this piece to challenge you to Breathe and Live in your authentic truth.

Everyone was created with God-given purpose and it is our duty in this life to discover what that is and use it for the greater good. When you live in a lie you only rob yourself of the life, opportunities and relationships that were ordained for you. In my last post ‘Issa New Month: APRIL’ I spoke about the importance of reflection and how we must practise it to evaluate our thoughts, actions and behaviours. Do yourself a favour and be honest with where you are. If you know that deep down you are not living truthfully, its time to remove the mask.

Don’t be afraid. There is no need for you to pretend to be anything other than what you were created to be. Living a lie will only take you further than you ever intended to go and who knows where you could end up. Embrace who you are and where you are at in your life, because you only get one. Jcole was right when he said: “no such thing as a life that’s better than yours. This is why you must Love Yours AND LIVE IN YOUR TRUTH.

 

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2018 for me is the year for real life change, growth, transformation and positive scandals. It is not limited to just me though, you can get in on some of this good stuff too, but you have to be intentional about what you want out of life. Think about it, but not for too long. Whoa, this was a heavy post so I HAVE to end it with a prayer.

Dear Heavenly Father, I pray for the individual reading this, I pray that you will stirrup in them the urge to throw off their mask and step into their beautiful God-given truth. May they find the courage to be who you created and called them to be. Let every situation that causes them to hurt, lie, cheat, steal and deceive may it be uprooted and destroyed. In order to make room for new things to be planted in their life that will lead them further into their destiny.

Amen.

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Stay blessed peeps

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Lots Of Love

Jenna

xoxo

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ISSA New Month: A P R I L

Wow, can you believe that we have reached the fourth month of the year?

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LAST MONTH, was incredible for me as it was filled with nothing but newness. I stepped out into the world with JENNASWORLDVIEW and the blessings have been flowing ever since. Thank you ever so much for the support, I received a total of 1,954 views across 38 countries. WOW, I am truly humbled and I am so happy that you have decided to keep up with me on this journey.

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The month of April has quickly dawned on us and I have had to ask myself repeatedly ‘Where did the time go?’ and I know that I am not the only one. Today is the 1st of April 2018 and there is now 9 months left in this year. For some reason, this has me fired up with excitement and my expectations for the rest of 2018 are definitely on a high. You may think to yourself that 9-months is long, but I want to remind you that so much can occur in that time.

Where you are today, I can confidently tell you that you most certainly will not be there on the 31st December 2018. It takes 9 months for a child to be formed in the darkness of its mother’s womb. There are so many things that a child endures during that 9-month process before they enter into the world and take their first breath.

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For the remainder of the year, let me challenge you to look at 2018 from a different angle. See it as more than just months in a calendar, but look at it as a developmental and blossoming process. Use these last 9 months to grow and strive toward achieving your goals.

If you already know what you want to do achieve, great. If you don’t, that’s ok try and have a good think about what it is that you would like to do or achieve. Most people are geared up in January with multiple new years resolutions that quickly fade away before the month is even out. I am guilty of this too, but that’s ok because I am running my own race. Unless I AM dead, there is still enough time for me to do, see, become and achieve and the same goes for you too.

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Read this carefully, if you have already fallen off in 2018, I am here to encourage you to get back up and try again. APRIL is a new month and new season, that will give you the chance to do better and be greater than you were in the previous months. It is never too late to do ALL the things you want to do. Whatever your goals are you can still achieve them. Let April be a starting point to begin something new or finish off what you already started. Just as a baby grows in the womb for 9-months, you too can grow in the last 9 months of 2018 to give birth to your GOALS.

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To help you look at the month of APRIL with fresh eyes, I broke it down into the following acronym

A -Accountability

Accountability is about being accountable to others e.g parents, managers, friends etc about your actions. We are taught how to be accountable to others from a very early age but are not taught how to be accountable to ourselves until later on in life.  By then, we have probably already caused some self-damage. If we don’t master the art of personal accountability, we are at risk of getting out of control. This April, I challenge you to work diligently at holding yourself accountable for your actions, responsibilities and goals.

P-Perseverance

Whatever happens in April, just know that perseverance is vital for survival. Whether good or bad things come your way this month, stay focused and push your way through. Obstacles and challenges are apart of life, just like celebrations and good times. When we persevere through things it helps to develop our character in so many ways. Do not be deterred by what may come your way this month, just keep it moving.

R – Reflection

It is so easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of life, where you forget to stop for a moment to take things in and reflect. Reflection is a major key that needs to be practised on a regular basis. This month, be intentional about your personal growth. Practise Reflection. Practise Reflection. Practise Reflection. At the end of each day, dedicate 10-15 minutes to reflect on your day oppose to scrolling through the socials. Think about how you acted during that day, what you did, what you said or how you felt. Reflection can teach you so many things about yourself that you may have been unaware of.

I – Improvement

The process of improvement is to make things better. For me, an area of my life that needs significant improvement is my punctuality. This month I plan to make a conscious and practical effort to be more mindful of my timekeeping. Do you have an area in your life, where you would like to see some improvements? Have a good think about what this may be and then take it from there. Even if you mess up or fall off at your first attempt, start again and keep pushing through.

L -Love

Love is the greatest gift of all. It so so powerful, so genuine and has the supernatural ability to transcend all things. This month, let LOVE flow freely to and from you. Choose to operate from a place of love and I guarantee you love will permeate all other areas of your life. Deal with others with love, speak with love, act with love. Remember what I told you in my Is Sisterhood dying, out here in the streets?post, showing love isn’t exclusive to the things and people you know and like, aim to show love to all things and persons. Especially yourself.

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Happy New Month, I pray that the month of April will be a month of unmerited Favour. May you soar to higher heights, throwing off the barriers of stagnancy in every area of your life. There is greatness on the inside of you and as the rest of 2018 begins to unfold may you strive to unlock your God-given potential.

Stay Blessed

P.S. There are lots of great new blog posts to come in the month of April so don’t go far.

You can find me on Instagram, Facebook, & Twitter @JennasWorldView

Lots of Lyfe, Luv & Loyalty

Jenna

xoxo

#JennasWorldView: Top 10 travel essentials

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Sometimes packing your travel luggage can be a major task in itself. You either end up over packing with the wrong stuff or forgetting to pack the most important things. I can confidently say it with my chest that I am a ‘seasoned flyer’ who knows a thing or two about packing a suitcase.

True say I love you like cooked food. I decided to put together a list of my top ten travel essentials just for you. So have a good read through my list and If you haven’t been away for a while, use it as a guide to help you pack. Even if you are a regular jet-setter, compare your top ten essentials with mine to see if we are on the same page boo.

Just so you know, everything that I have listed below you will find in my travel luggage come rain or shine.

  1. Portable Charger

This is number one on my list because I can not stand when my battery dies and its feel even worse on holiday. I would definitely recommend investing in a really good portable charger. I know most of us like bargains but spend the extra coins on a legit charger that is long lasting and reliable. No one wants their battery to die on them whilst out sightseeing. It has happened to me too many times before and it hurts me every single time lol.

For me, I have found that the constant use of multiple social media apps usually kills my battery off. I always end up needing back up battery juice whilst on the go. So believe me when I say you need to invest in a portable charger and don’t forget to ACTUALLY pack it in your case.

JWV Travel tip: To preserve your battery life, close unnecessary apps, reduce your screen brightness and change the battery setting to low battery mode (Apple gang), even when the battery is full. 

2. Worldwide travel adapter

The amount of travel plugs that I have racked up over the years has qualified me to become a wholesale retailer. Before you set off on any trip, do some research on what type of plugs you will need for the places you plan to visit. Some hotels are usually fully equipped with universal plugs, but sometimes that is not always the case.

Grab yourself an adapter from a reliable retailer. These back street electricals good will your send devices to an early grave. Amazon is the ultimate plug for me when it comes to travel adapters. Click here to purchase the one that I currently have in my possession.

On my recent trip to Rome, theLovely_Tiff and I  forgot to pack travel adapters. So for the first two nights, we had to freestyle with our hair because we had no adapter for the straighteners.

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3. Wet wipes

I know you are probably thinking wet wipes but hold fire because there is a method to my madness and you’ll thank me later. I always pack wet wipes when I travel for two reasons. Firstly, on the plane, your hands will get dirty quite quickly and it’s not always possible to get up to every second and use the toilet. From eating food to touching your phone, you will most definitely need to have some wet wipes on deck.

Secondly, when I am away from home and use other bathroom facilities abroad, 50% of the time I find that the toilet paper feels like sandpaper lol. True say I am not interested in getting paper cuts around my privates, I carry wet wipes for that extra added comfort when using the toilet. I highly suggest that you pack wet wipes in your case the next time you jet off as they really do come in handy. You can purchase them from just about anywhere for as little as £1 or less.

4. Travel pillow

Unless you are flying first class, please bring a travel pillow. The longest flight I have ever taken was 11 hours plus to Costa Rica (Aug 2017) and if I never had a travel pillow, my neck would have been a write-off. Take my advice and pack a travel pillow, especially on a long-haul flight. To me memory foam is the Bentley of travel pillows in general, it really gives you that extra added comfort and support needed whilst you take a nap on the plane. Check out the memory foam pillow that I purchased on Amazon it is the real deal and does the job oh so perfectly.

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5. Sliders/flip flops 

I take my sliders with me everytime I travel. To be honest, I really cant fly without them or my flight socks. Unfortunately for me, I have to ensure I wear both to prevent swelling and blood clots. I experience poor circulation in my legs when I fly, so I have no choice but to bring these items with me. On my way back home from New York in 2010, I was found passed out on the plane due to complications with swelling in my legs. I caught a fever and your girl was laid out.

Always pack flat footwear when travelling, especially during the flights to ensure that your feet are super comfortable. Whether they be Gucci, Adidas, Nike or Havaianas pack them in your carry on luggage just to be on the safe side.

JWV Travel tip: Try and move around during the flight, to keep the blood circulating in your legs. If you can avoid it do not sit down throughout the whole flight, get up and walk through the aisles.

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6. Padlocks with combination codes 

These babies are a life saver for your travel luggage. There is no hassle with padlock keys or anything like that because all you have to do is come up with a combination. It’s always a good idea to lock your valuables away when they are not in your sight.

Most hotels have safety box facilities in their rooms. I made the most of this in Dubai but still made sure I had my own padlock with me. If you are not staying in a hotel on your next trip, do yourself a favour and buy some padlocks. I am not saying that you will get robbed but who wants people gaining unauthorised access to their luggage? 🔐 Buy yourself some padlocks and remember to come up with an easy and memorable combination code that you won’t forget. I grabbed my padlocks (click here ) from my trusted connect, Amazon.

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7. Travel bottle kit 

I used to be one of those people who would overload my luggage with life-size toiletries. This was until customs stung me with fees in the Dominican Republic back in 2012 and ever since I have taken the necessary precautions.

Invest in some travel bottles to transfer all your liquids. It will help to keep your case super organised and you will find that you have lots more space to play around with. Amazon sells good quality travel bottle sets from £4.95 (click here) You will never have to worry about liquids leaking out into your case because these travel bottles are legit.

8. Waterproof phone case

This item is only essential depending on what countries you are going to visit and what you plan to get up to. I still do think a waterproof case is handy only because you know  I love to take my phone everywhere lol. Most of these new phones are waterproof, but I don’t take those kinds of chances. It is better to be safe than sorry, so grab yourself a  waterproof phone case and take it with you on your next trip. My case was a life saver in Costa Rica. I took that bad boy snorkelling alongside my wig and both of them came back intact.

I grabbed my case from Amazon for £6.99 (click here) and my Virgin curly wig was purchased from Hermain Hair (click here). I have a post on all things hair coming soon so watch this space boo.

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9. iPad, tablet or laptop

My iPad is my baby (LuLu), she comes everywhere with me even on holiday. I love taking my iPad with me because it allows me to do lots of additional things like watch Netflix or catch up on some admin. Since it is much bigger than my mobile handset I can set it up anywhere and do whatever I need to do.

Heres a quick gem for you, the entertainment on the plane can sometimes be a bit dusty. So the next time you travel download some of your favourite tv shows or films and binge-watch it on the plane.

10. Travel Insurance

I don’t care how you feel about this or if you think it is a waste of money. Travel insurance is just as important as your passport. Even if you are taking a day trip to Paris, you must ensure that you book your travel insurance. It is one of the cheapest things to purchase when travelling but sadly it is ignorantly overlooked by most people. You are able to buy travel insurance in under 10mins online, it is a very simple process that takes no real time off your hands.

Travel insurance can cover a wide range of things from medical bills to delayed flights. So always make sure that you review what a policy has to offer properly before buying one. It is ALWAYS best to travel smart as you never know what can happen. In life always stay ready because the unexpected can occur.  I always run a quick search on Compare the market to find the best price on the market.

JWV Travel tip: set a reminder on your phone 5 days before your trip to book your travel insurance. 

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Did you know?  I buy myself a new Adidas two piece set every time I fly out? I know you are probably thinking to yourself this girl is so EXTRA (I am lol), but there is a good reason behind this one. In my family, we have a tradition where we buy a new outfit to wear to the airport whenever we fly out.  I am not sure when it started but me, my mum, dad and both my brothers all do it and I will most definitely be passing this on to my kids.

Is there something that you must do or purchase before you travel? Let your girl know because it can not just be my family and I who do this lol

 I hope you have found my top ten travel essentials list useful.

I included some Amazon affiliate links to products that I actually use.  All of which come highly recommend by me because I know they actually work lol.

In my next #JennasWorldView travel post, I will talk about the countries that I have visited so far (no I haven’t just been to Rome lol) as well as some of my upcoming travel plans for 2018 & beyond.

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